How to effectively manage the purple crying stage.

Oct 14

3 min read

"Purple crying" refers to a developmental phase that some infants go through, characterized by prolonged periods of crying that are difficult to soothe. The term "PURPLE" is an acronym used to describe specific features of this crying phase. It was developed by Dr. Ronald Barr, a pediatrician, to help parents understand that this type of crying is a normal part of infant development. Here's what each letter stands for:

P: Peak of crying – The baby may cry more each week, peaking at around 2 months, and then gradually improving.
U: Unexpected – The crying can come and go without any apparent reason.
R: Resists soothing – The baby may not calm down no matter what is done to comfort them.
P: Pain-like face – Babies may look like they are in pain, even if they are not.
L: Long-lasting – Crying episodes can last 30-40 minutes or more at a time.
E: Evening – The baby may cry more in the late afternoon or evening.

This phase is typically most intense between 2 weeks and 3-4 months of age. While it can be very stressful for caregivers, it's important to remember that it is a normal part of many infants' development and does not indicate that the baby is unwell.

Coping with purple crying can be challenging for parents and caregivers, but there are strategies that can help manage the stress while comforting the baby. Here are some tips:

1. Understand That It's Normal

Knowing that purple crying is a normal developmental phase can help alleviate the worry that something is wrong with your baby. It typically resolves on its own by 3 to 4 months.

2. Check for Basic Needs

Before anything else, make sure the baby’s basic needs are met (diaper is clean, they are not hungry, too hot or cold, etc.). If these needs are met, crying may just be part of the purple crying phase.

3. Soothing Techniques

Swaddle: Wrapping the baby snugly in a blanket can help some babies feel secure and calm.
White noise: Use calming sounds like a fan, a white noise machine, or soft music to comfort your baby.
Motion: Gently rocking the baby, walking with them in a sling, or going for a car ride may help reduce crying.
Pacifier: Sucking can be soothing for some infants.
Skin-to-skin contact: Holding your baby close, with skin-to-skin contact, can be calming.

4. Take Breaks

Put the baby down: If you are feeling overwhelmed, it is okay to put the baby down in a safe place (like their crib) and step away for a few minutes to take a break.
Ask for help: If possible, share caregiving responsibilities with a partner, friend, or family member. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it.
Rest when you can: Taking care of yourself is crucial, especially with interrupted sleep. Rest whenever you get the opportunity, even if it’s just a short nap.

5. Practice Relaxation Techniques

Breathing exercises, mindfulness, or even quick moments of relaxation can help manage your stress.
Listening to music or using relaxation apps during these stressful moments can also help calm your nerves.

6. Connect with Other Parents

Talking with other parents who have gone through or are going through similar experiences can help you feel supported. Parenting groups or online communities can offer advice and a place to vent.

7. See a Doctor If Concerned

If you're worried that the crying might be due to something more serious, it's always best to consult your pediatrician to rule out any underlying health issues.

8. Take Care of Your Mental Health

Caring for a crying baby can be emotionally draining. If you feel overwhelmed or experience signs of postpartum depression or anxiety, seek support from a healthcare provider.

9. Stay Patient

Remember that this phase will pass. Try to keep in mind that your baby isn’t crying to frustrate or upset you; they’re going through a developmental stage